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ARE YOU REALLY SURE GOD IS PLEASED?

Dear couples, I want you to understand that the idea of marriage is God's command. It is God's will for you to be married for His own Glory and agenda. Do not be deceived to take God out of the picture. God instructed the man, love your wife and He instructed the woman, submit to your husband. My assignment in this post is to help you evaluate your self in your marriage.

Irrespective of the attitude of your spouse towards you, my question for you is this: as a husband, are you really sure the way you are loving your wife is pleasing God? As a wife, are you really sure the way you submit to your husband is pleasing God? This is the real question because if you take God out of the picture, you will never become the kind of husband or wife God have intended you to become.

You don't have to wait till your spouse treat you well before you give your best according to God's will. You might be waiting for your spouse to change before you give your spouse your best, but God is waiting for you to drop your pride, and become selfless towards your spouse before your spouse will change. And I must warn you: this person you want your spouse to become, is it your own will or it is God's will for your spouse?

The best spouse you will have in this marriage is a spouse that is daily becoming who God wants them to become. Wake up, this marriage is not for you and your spouse, it is for God's agenda. And if your spouse pleasing God offends you, your Salvation is questionable.

The way you talk and treat your spouse, is God happy about it? Don't count the mistakes or flaws of your spouse. The goal is you daily becoming the kind of spouse God wants you to become to your spouse. Some times, you have to look beyond the flaws of your spouse. Cause if you consider the present status of your spouse, there are many good deeds you will stop doing.

Here is a quick reminder, you are accountable to God Almighty for how you talk, think and treat your spouse. God will question you how diligent you were in the life of the spouse He gave to you. Your spouse is your responsibility. Your spouse might act like it or not but your duty is to honour God in the way you think, talk and treat them. Like we say it in Nigeria, "just do it because of God."

Above all, don't depend on your strength. Stop looking at your spouse. Look unto Jesus the author and finisher of your Faith. Remember, in this marriage of yours, God alone is your supervisor, He is watching you, and He will reward you according. It's not going to be according to what your spouse did that made you do what you did. It is going to be either you obeyed His instructions or not. ARE YOU REALLY SURE YOU ARE PLEASING GOD IN THE WAY YOU FORGIVE YOUR SPOUSE, IN THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE, IN THE WAY YOU TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE OR SPEAK ABOUT YOUR WIFE, AND IN THE WAY YOU TREAT YOUR SPOUSE? 

Hmmm.. My people, you can't do it in the flesh because you will see, and experience what will make you have reasons to treat your spouse harshly. But in all, look ,unto Jesus and remember, your marriage is part of your Salvation race. It is not too late to make it up to your spouse. Send your spouse a text, give your spouse a call or if you are close to them, give your spouse a hug, a kiss or a gift or massage. Be kind to your spouse BECAUSE OF GOD...NOT BECAUSE THEY DESERVE IT (even if your spouse is well behaved). Shalom!!!


Prince Victor Matthew
HOPE EXPRESSION HUB


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