Married couples are supposed to enjoy their marriage but some spoil it with some Attitude unknowingly. I will be sharing these Attitude with you but most times, they appear passive yet impactful on the marriage.
GOSSIP.
If you are the kind of person that accommodate gossip, you are setting your self up. The people that comes to you always with stories about your spouse are doing you more harm. Your dealings with your spouse is meant to be private. But when people can't mind their business, there is a way to deal with them. If any one gossip any thing to you, don't use the information to fight your spouse. Don't use that information to suspect, presume or assume anything. Your spouse is your personal responsibility. So, when you hear any thing about them, find the right time and place to bring it up as a conversation. ASK QUESTIONS and politely seek for clarity about whatsoever they have to say about it. Either your spouse lie to you or tell you the truth about it. Either they are guilty or not guilty, the content of the gossip must become your prayer point to shield your spouse. It should dictate to you what you need to do to make sure you don't fail in supporting your spouse... in the area of the content of that gossip.
LYING.
One of the greatest feeling your spouse can have about you is when your words are dependable. Time will actually tell if you are a liar or not. Always find a way to share with your spouse if he or she is too harsh, dramatic, and excessive display of anger. Some couple can't be truthful because they know how dramatic their spouse can be. Be matured enough to listen to the truth no matter how worse it might and have a heart to heart conversation with your spouse. Either you are the one lying or your spouse, be aware that some one is not comfortable to let down his or her guards to be vonorable because of the fear of your negative reaction. Can you really handle the truth? Will you still respect your spouse if he or she tells you the truth? Will you keep your mood and emotions in check if you really really know the truth?
ASSUMPTION.
If you are not sure of some thing, simple ask your spouse politely with the intention of understanding (stop looking for faults). Some times people ask questions just to find a way to start a fight or get an information they will use against their spouse. Are you asking to understand and sustain your home or you are asking to find fault as a weak point against your spouse? Stop thinking or concluding on a statement and attitude from your spouse, if you have not clarify what your spouse actually mean from your spouse. When your spouse is asking you questions clarity, stop picking offense at it. Seek to understand and seek to help your spouse to understand too.
PRESUMPTION.
If you have not heard your spouse say it then it's not real. If your spouse have not displayed the action, then it's not in them. Stop thinking unbehalf of your spouse. Stop predicting what your spouse will do next or say. Why are you already putting up a defense attitude over something your spouse have not even said or done? Most time, over thinking can result to this toxic expectations. Relax, and express your fears and worries to your spouse. Give your spouse a chance to express their fears, worries, and doubts without making them feel, they are overreacting or weak. Ask your spouse, are you trying to avoid me? Are you planing to abandon me? You have been unavailable and tried whenever you return home, am I no longer appealing to your sexual? This and this is what your words and actions makes me feel you are about to do, can you help me clarity some thing here?
SUSPICIOUS MINDSET.
This is a mindset that works hand in hand with presumption. Learn to always see good in whatsoever your spouse do. Expect the best from your spouse, expect it and respond to your spouse with that same energy. The bible says, the expectations of the righteous shall not be cut off. Stop expecting what you don't want to experience with your spouse. Don't accommodate in your thoughts, whatsoever is not plan of God for your marital destiny.
Finally, you can use every thought all these five enemies project into your mind as prayer point. Seek to be protective towards your spouse. The devil comes to kill, steal and destroy. Don't support the devil by putting up Attitude and speaking words that will push your spouse into what all these enemies is suggesting in your head.
If the fear is your spouse cheating on you then, it's time to increase your romantic nature and look out for ways to spice up your sexual life. Whatsoever the devil throw at you in your mind, turn them into prayer point. Use those same negative vibe to position your attitude to safeguard your spouse from falling... in case it manifest.
I hope you have gotten value for your time? Always remember - He is YOUR HUSBAND and she is YOUR WIFE. In other words, your spouse is your responsibility. Shift no blames. It is 100% going to be your choice or fault if you fail or succeed.
Prince Victor Matthew
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What would your advice be if a relationship constantly leads to tears and heartache. Would you be of the stay with your partner mentality and lose yourself in the process . Or would you actually support walking out if a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship?
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