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Preserving Unity During a Disagreement

1. It’s not About Being Right or Wrong; It’s About Being One.

Our goal must never be to “win an argument”; rather, it should be to seek reconciliation and unity.

2. In Disagreement, give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.

When your spouse acts out of character, remind yourself that this isn’t normal behavior. Instead of choosing to retaliate, offer grace and seek to find out the root issue. Overreacting disrupts the opportunity for unity.

3. Affirm Your Spouse’s Feelings.

Regardless of whether or not you understand why your spouse is hurt, always seek to see their point of view and validate it. A surefire way to disrupt unity is to make your spouse feel ridiculous or stupid for feeling the way they do.

4. Apologize – Wholeheartedly.

Half an apology is really no apology at all. We can’t fool our spouses into thinking a fake apology is authentic.

5. Let Your Actions Communicate Your Desire for Unity.

When you apologize to your spouse, show your commitment to unity in an appropriate way. Sometimes, one simple touch can change the whole mood of the conversation.

6. Never Raise Your Voice.

Never raise your voice. Talk to your spouse; don’t yell. Love never needs to wield such a weapon. If you raise your voice, very soon you will lose it.

7. Never Try to Punish Your Spouse.

Pouting or ignoring your spouse is never a sign of maturity; it’s a sign of pride.

8. Remind Yourself: Every Moment You Spend With Your Spouse is a Blessing From the Lord.

None of us is guaranteed to wake up another morning beside our spouse. Don’t let petty arguments drive you away from each other. Each day is an opportunity to either grow or stifle your love for one another.

PRINCE VICTOR MATTHEW 

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