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Are You Using Your Spouse or You Are Useful To Your Spouse?

Dear Married Couple, Have you paused lately to ask yourself: Am I using my spouse to meet my needs, or am I being useful to their God-given destiny? Marriage is not just companionship; it is covenant partnership with purpose. When God brought Eve to Adam, she wasn’t just a helper in the kitchen — she was a helper suitable for his assignment (Genesis 2:18). Likewise, dear husband or wife, your presence in your spouse’s life should be a divine advantage, not a drain. Are you pushing them towards God’s purpose or just pulling them towards your preferences?

Sometimes we unconsciously use our spouses — for attention, validation, sex, or social status — without investing in their spiritual growth, emotional healing, or purpose journey. But Ecclesiastes 4:9 reminds us, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.” That “reward” is not just material; it is also the eternal impact of walking in divine alignment together. When last did you ask, How can I serve what God is doing in your life? Instead of competing or complaining, are you complementing and contributing?

Dear couple, marriage is not a stage for selfish desires; it is a platform for mutual destiny fulfillment. Proverbs 31:11-12 says, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her… She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” This principle goes both ways. Can your spouse say, “Because of you, I am becoming more of who God called me to be”? If not, it’s time to repent, realign, and recommit. Be more than a spouse in the house — be a destiny helper on the journey.

Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values you. 

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