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Couples, Are You Building Each Other?

Marriage is not merely about finding someone you love; it is about becoming the kind of couple through whom God's purpose can be expressed. Husband, are you leading and cultivating your wife toward becoming all God wants her to become? Wife, are you genuinely helping your husband become who God has called him to be, or are you constantly trying to turn him into the man you personally want? Your spouse is not a project for your personal redesign. Marriage should become a place where both people grow into the fullness of God's purpose.

Husband, leadership is more than making decisions, providing financially or expecting your wife to follow you. Biblical leadership requires cultivation. You should create an atmosphere where your wife can develop her gifts, mature spiritually, express wisdom and function confidently in her God given assignment. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Ephesians 5:25). Christlike leadership does not suppress a woman's purpose; it creates room for her to flourish within God's order.

Wife, submission is not the destruction of your identity, voice or calling. You are called to be a suitable helper, not a spiritual obstacle to your husband's purpose. Your words, wisdom, encouragement, prayers and cooperation can strengthen the man you married. But ask yourself honestly: Am I helping my husband become God's man, or am I constantly pressuring him to become my version of a successful husband? There is a difference between encouraging growth and attempting to control someone's identity.

Both of you must learn to distinguish between God's purpose and personal expectations. You may have entered marriage with an image of what your husband or wife should become, but marriage requires humility when God's plan is different from your assumptions. “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” (Ephesians 5:21) reminds us that marriage requires mutual reverence for God's will. You are not competing for dominance; you are learning how to walk together in divine order, honor and love.

A healthy marriage should make both people better servants of Christ, not smaller versions of themselves. Husband, cultivate her without controlling her. Wife, strengthen him without emasculating him. Husband, provide leadership without intimidation. Wife, offer support without manipulation. Learn each other's assignment, protect each other's growth and make room for the Holy Spirit to work in both of you. The goal is not simply to have a successful marriage; it is to become a marriage in which two people can truthfully say, “Our union has helped us become more of who God created us to be.”

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Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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