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Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

Beloved of God, affairs do not always involve sexual intercourse. A husband or wife can become emotionally unfaithful by developing a secretive, intimate connection with someone outside the marriage. When someone else becomes the person you constantly confide in, seek comfort from or emotionally prioritize, a boundary may already be forming.

Emotional affairs often begin quietly. Frequent private conversations, hidden messages, inappropriate compliments, sharing marital problems with someone who is becoming emotionally important, or looking forward to another person's attention can gradually create an attachment. What are you sharing with someone else that should first be discussed with your spouse?

Emotional intimacy requires boundaries. Friendship is not the problem, but secrecy, emotional dependency and romantic attachment can put your marriage at risk. If you would hide the conversation, delete the messages or become defensive if your spouse discovered the relationship, it is worth examining why.

Do not wait until physical intimacy happens before taking the warning signs seriously. Protect your marriage by being honest, establishing appropriate boundaries and redirecting emotional energy toward your spouse. If something inappropriate has already developed, repentance, truthful communication, accountability and wise counseling can help begin the process of restoration.

Marriage needs more than physical faithfulness; it needs emotional faithfulness too. “Let marriage be had in honour in all” (Hebrews 13:4). Ask yourself honestly: Am I giving someone outside my marriage the emotional access, attention or affection that belongs within my covenant? Let Christ and the Holy Spirit help you guard your heart and honor your spouse.

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Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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